If We Were Having Coffee, 12.10.15

This post is inspired by Jamie, blogger extraordinaire of The Perpetual Page-Turner, who posts these casual chats on her blog in between bookish posts.


As I've mentioned before, I prefer to keep this blog all about books and not about me. You can catch snippets of my life in my Week in Review posts every Friday, but (as you may have noticed) by the time Friday afternoon rolls around I am usually exhausted and so most of those personal snapshots give the impression that my whole life is consumed by work and stress. I thought it would be nice to have a little chat with you all today so we can get to know each other better. So, grab a cup of joe, maybe a pumpkin spice latte, and let's gab!

If we were having coffee...

I'd ask if you've read any good books lately. I've been struggling to get into my current reads, even though I've been looking forward to reading these books for ages. Last night I finally started on my book club read, Only Ever Yours by Louise O'Neill...and I'm not loving it. At least I'll have a lot to talk about at book club this weekend. Still, I hate that feeling of not being able to fall in love with a good book. Fingers crossed I'm not falling into a reading slump. 

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What do you do if you feel like you're falling into a reading slump? What was the last book you completely fell head-over-heels in love with? I could definitely use a book like that right about now.


I'd tell you that today is a loved one's birthday. But we're going through a hard time in our relationship at the moment so I've been feeling quite sad, missing better days. Part of growing older is learning how to navigate relationships that are more and more complex. It's especially hard when you're separated from most of your loved ones by an ocean. This year I've learned that family issues, or any difficult issues with loved ones, can really drain your energy. I'm working on being kind to myself, giving myself permission to feel sad when I need to, and trying my hardest to empathise with what my loved one is feeling right now. 


Do you have any relationships in your life that are changing? Do you have any family or loved ones living far away? Do you have any sage words of wisdom on how to handle rifts in relationships when the other person lives in another country?


I'd tell you that I'm planning a trip to Paris with the boyfriend next month and I'm SO EXCITED. I've been stalking travel blogs and have a huge list of places to see while we're there. It'll be a short little getaway but it'll be good to get out of London. I've been to Paris a few times, once with H (the boyfriend) and once with the loved one mentioned above. Both visits were fun, but mainly focused on seeing the big touristy things. This time I'm excited to get to know the city and discover it's more authentic side. 


Have you ever been to Paris? Let me know if you have any recommendations - things to do, places to see, and especially good food and drink. Do you know of any bookish things to do/see in Paris? 


I'd tell you that I'm feeling quite overwhelmed by work at the moment. I've missed several deadlines lately and it's hard not to feel disheartened. Doing a PhD is hard. I have a friend who likes to make comments every weekend about how little I appear to work (despite the fact that it's the weekend and she's not working either). Of course in her mind a PhD is a cushy job, just sitting around reading all the time. It's hard to explain just how draining it can be to spend your days filling your mind with a lot of complex ideas in order to synthesise them and come up with new, better ideas.  


How's your work going? How do you cope when you become disheartened and overwhelmed by your work? If you're also stressed over work we can commiserate. And if you're inspired and invigorated by your work, I would love to hear about it. 


And finally I'd tell you how much fun I'm having with this blog. I'd give you a BIG HUG and get all sappy saying thank you for all of the support. I'm still new to this and so every comment and every person who reads a post means a lot. 

Thanks for stopping by and sharing a cup of coffee with me!